Does he say it's "OKAY" to be with someone else while he is in there?
And if he is "with" someone else or writes to some other girls while he is in there, is it cheating? My husband and I were together before his incarceration and he's serving a 22 year sentence. But I took vows for" better or worse" and I truely believe this is the worse. If you're not married and you are unhappy, if there is someone out in the free world that makes you happy then you should be with one in the free world. If he does, then there is something wrong with this picture.
I really hopeyou do not end up getting hurt over the whole situation. and Yes, I JUST WISH HE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME FROM THE START!!!!! yeah, a sex-change operation to become a woman because i know he loves me but i also know that he is 110% Heterosexual and that he Likes Women!!!
You are young and deserve someone that makes you happy and is committed to you and only you. i would have hated him and been against it 75%, and i MAY have "Left" him had i known, and that's exactly WHY he didn't tell me THEN..... i think all of you can relate to that last little bit, huh? and besides, i'm Uber "Fem" and i've secretly always wanted to be a "girl" ;) ....he's perfect for me on the issues that most men wouldn't Even EVER Consider!!!!
If you are in a open and honest and realistic relationship then you should be able to talk to your man and trust that he is telling the truth.
If there is a doubt then you need to talk to him about it. If you guys are commited to each other then he should have no "free game".
Sometimes we have to be strong enough to say enough is enough. his name is Leo :) ..i don't think we are seeing the same dude, lol... ALL of You for taking the time out to read and reply to my little worry-some post here :) ..means a lot, it really does :) thank you ..yeah, ...i've worked through my issues with him but it is very complex (Our Relationship), it's so complex and very unusual, even for a "Prison" romance :) ... We met over a year ago and at the time we were Both seeing other people. he's already done like 15 months and he has already been up to see the Parole Board. I'm the type of Person who's Emotions Run VERY Deep! He said that he is getting a Divorce from her, but i want him to get an ANNULMENT and for her to drop/GIVE BACK his LAST NAME!!!! Hey Avery, thank you for opening up and sharing the complexity of you relationship..it sounds like it is just that!
You seem to have your head on straight so just stay positive and strong and hopefully the best will come of your situation. Kara Everybody wants to be surrounded with likeminded people that have common interests.
One because I don't send him money so he has to rely on the stationary that the state gives him and that is not a lot and two I believe that he waited this long to marry me because he does love me and tells me the truth. If he truely loves you he will except you and your mood swings for what they are.
I cannot say if he is using you or not because I don't know either of you or your situation, but it sounds like there are possibly games going on.
i feel bad for her 'cos she is just 18 years old and she has two kids... i Doubt that she even knows who the Baby's Daddy is???? HE has a Son but, his son is from some other girl.... lol, she said that she'd had "Conjugal" Visits with him and i KNEW it WAST True because only 6 States allow Conjugal Visits (California, Connecticut, Mississippi, New Mexico, New York, and Washington), and we are in UTAH (of all places)..... .....i wanted to tell her who i was 'cos i don't like lying to people, but he told me that if he son's Mom found out that i am not a "Real" girl, then she would keep/take his son from him again.... I have waited for my husband for 3 years so far, and I'd wait 20 more if I had to.
i guess she was 6 months pregnant with her second child at the time they got married. His "Wife" knows his son's Mom and his "Wife" HATES his son's mom. He said that the reason he doesn't like his "wife" No More is because she Doesn't Want him to Know his Son and she made him "Choose" between Her and His own son. he warned me not to talk to her 'cos she is such a Lier! His son's mom is "bisexual" but she doesn't want her son to know that his daddy is a "homo".... But he said that When he get's out, that he will introduce me to his son's mom 'cos when he is out, she wont have all the Power and Control to keep him from seeing his son. I don't care about his son's mom though, all i want to know is if he is Telling her that he "LOVES" her and if he is telling her that he wants to "BE WITH" Her and if he is telling her that he wants to "MARRY" her, ya know??? There has never been a day where I question what I am doing.